Conquering the Boundaries of Friendship – Making and Maintaining Meaningful Relationships
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What is your book about?
Discusses the difficulty and boundaries men must cross and conquer to make and maintain meaningful male relationships and the impact on the women and children who love them.
What inspired you to write your book?
My best friend is 27 years my junior and we both were talking about how our contemporaries thought it was weird that we could like each other, the each of us must have a hidden agenda for being friends – I started speaking with others who had similar experiences and other boundaries which they had to conquer to become or maintain their friendships.
If you have a business related to your book, tell us about it:
I do not have a business related to my book but I have had incredible satisfaction from my readers whom have written telling me about the positive impact my book has had on their lives and how they’ve changed the way they are raising their children given the subtle messages we transmit to our children as they’re growing up and we may not even be aware of the messages our children are receiving.
What is a typical day like for you?
My typical day involves my business partner and I working with clients performing operational diligence on investment target companies – after lunch I usually dedicate two hours to heads-down writing – I save research for the weekends – 99% of my work is done remotely and has been even before Covid-19 so not much has changed for my business since Covid-19 precautions have gone into effect. I usually try to exercise and hike 4 days a week which gives me great time to think in the outdoors to position my research and main messages for both my business and for my next two books which I’m writing currently.
What do you most enjoy about what you do?
I love the variety of my work and I love the people aspects of my work, meeting new people and making connections. I’ve always liked to read and write – I’m definitely an ambivert so I enjoy my quiet time and I enjoy meeting new people – I consider myself a “connector” making connections between people whom otherwise may not have known about each other. I love interviewing people – I’ve interviewed over 200 men for Conquering the Boundaries of Friendship and I’ve interviewed over 400 people for my next book “You’re Cured – the Definitive Guide to the Healing Process for Patients and Caregivers“.
What are some favorite books you’d recommend to our readers?
Five Good Minutes – 100 Morning Practices to keep you calm and focused all day long by Jeffrey Brantley and Wendy Millstine – Talking to Strangers by Malcolm Gladwell – I usually only read non-fiction because I like to challenge my thinking and learn about different methods and viewpoints – again I like variety and nonfiction offers you the variety of experience from which you can continue to grow into the person you want to become.
What advice do you have to offer our readers?
Read 20 minutes a day in your chosen area of expertise and in one years time you will be in the top 5% of experts in your field – persistence pays off – I don’t get Mad I don’t get Even I get Ahead – that has always been my philosophy – life is too short to waste one iota of energy angry at someone or something be the bigger person and reach out – be kind to each other – we can learn something from every person we encounter.
What would people be surprised to learn about you?
I had Emergency Brain Surgery in 2018 for an undiagnosed asymptomatic brain birth defect which ruptured causing blindness and paralysis – I was told initially I would be blind the rest of my life and confined to a wheelchair – those weren’t good options to me – my brain surgeon said he thought once he removed the defect from my brain that my vision may return and he thought the paralysis would only be temporary, that once my Brain swelling from the rupture were reduced I would regain control of my legs – I decided to write my first book as rehab after brain surgery – so I put my plan together and I started interviewing people for the book. My next book uses a phrase from my brain surgeon “You’re Cured.” He told me he said he doesn’t get to say that to many patients and of course both he and I were in tears as I laid on the operating table. He thought I was being too aggressive with trying to write a book but it really helped my higher executive functions and organizing functions to rehabilitate faster than normal.
What’s next for you?
Finishing my next two books and then working on an idea for a fourth – looking for a female author to collaborate with me on my fourth book.